What you can do

1.      Come to the realization of the real situation

2.      Make the best of it do your utmost to make the best of it, so when you look back 10 years from now you will be able to tell yourself, I did everything I could, so that you will (hopefully) have no regrets

3.      Avoid arguments and try your utmost to look at it from her/his perspective

4.      Don’t blame yourself

5.      Be nice, and respectful, and do your best to accommodate your spouse should they decide to end the union so that you can tell yourself, that you were generous to your spouse

6.      Remember your children have little hearts and they have done nothing to deserve this, so keep all your stuff out of their domain, and be extremely considerate, & patient and tell them how much you love them

7.      In essence I am telling you to be gentlemen or a lady so that when you both look back it will be a pleasant situation

8.      You will have a very difficult time trying to convince your spouse that you are right, so don’t try.

9.      Take the high road and know that Hashem knows everything and there is a good reason for what is happening

10.  Don’t lose your kindness, and big heart, because if you lose your kindness and big heart, you will be the biggest loser